Being My Own Worst Enemy

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Do you ever think that maybe you are not where you want to be because YOU are in your own way in some shape or form? Why is it easy to look for extrinsic causes than intrinsic? Is it really just me that feels like this?

I am my own enemy! Sometimes I am not even aware that I am. But it amazes me that I am still in my own way. It just reaffirms to me that we need to do introspection as much as possible. We change and our environment has impacts on us even if we are not immediately aware of it. This is not a bad thing… But I do think it is a something we to not place enough importance on.

We can not change what we do not know. Thus we should investigate ourselves regularly and KNOW what WE WANT, WHY WE WANT IT and WHO WE ARE. Because the reasons change and we change and what we want change.

Today, I needed to take responsibility for being in my own way, for being my own worst enemy without really consciously knowing it. I made excuses and I lost my passion. I almost gave my self a fatal wound!

I am the only one who can account for my life and what I have and had done with it. ME, MYSELF and I. I would rather be my own cheerleader, champion, best friend and motivator than keeping myself down without even knowing it or knowing why.

I am changing this today. I need some introspection and changing my enemy to my greatest Ally!!

Keep Introspecting

Keep Evolving

Keep Being Aware

Keep Moving

Jean-Marie’ Roux

Being Me

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This is going to be a very honest and personal post. But hopefully someone will relate and gain something out of reading this.

My focus this year is to evolve #2018Evolve #OneWord #OneWord2018!! All my #’s!! It isn’t really the time to reflect yet, but the year is ending soon… So it happens automatically… This year has taught me so much. I have identified so many aspects of … ME!! I am quite a bag of contradictions and interesting nonsense…

I have also identified my biggest fear… And it baffles me. It was not a normal fear I expected, like being alone, more like ending up alone ( an actual fear of mine); but I was afraid of being me. Doing ME. Almost as if all my insecurities caused me to hide and try to be like others. I hope this makes sense, but it was like if I am me no one would like me or I would be to exposed. Like I am not good enough the way I am. I hid from myself and did not even realize it.

As I have been learning to know ME and doing ME, scary as hell… I like me. I like that I am different, that I have different opinions and look different. I am not afraid to be me anymore. I might not be everybody’s cup of tea, but I am me…That for me is enough!!

I want to encourage you to BE YOU, to DO YOU and most importantly FOR YOU!! Not only will YOU see and live and appreciate the change that occurs, but those close to you would too!!! That for me was the best, because they love me, so why can I not love me as well?

Do You maybe have any thoughts or stories of BEING YOU, DOING YOU, FOR YOU and how it has impacted you?

Thank You

Keep Moving!

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

 

Coruscate

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My love of words!!!

The word I am sharing with you this month will be coruscate: To reflect brilliantly; to sparkle.

I believe that being human and evolving means to learn and experience new ideas and different ways of thinking with in your core beliefs. Like a tree stands solid, but branches out in different directions and keeps growing!!

By learning new words and incorporating it in our vocabulary expands our knowledge base and can be so much fun!! Especially when you can help others to expand their vocabulary as well!! Try and say coruscate as much as possible but it has to make sense when you use the word!!

Remember we are all made to coruscate !!

Keep Moving !!

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

Don’t Let Failure Control YOU. Be DA BOSS

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Failure is something that I build up to everything and I mean EVERYTHING. Like to things outside my control. I mean I would feel guilty because it rained when we wanted to go out… I mean it is ridiculous. And to be honest to admit it as I am writing makes me feel a bit shameful and silly. I am only human I can not control everything. Truth be told there is very little we as humans can control.

But assigning this unattainable control to myself was exhausting!! Because it is useless energy wasted! Any way I wanted to share that because failure is to stop; to give up and stop trying. We must redefine what failure means to us and how we carry it with us. Failure does not exist if you never stop. You never have to think about it. As soon as that nasty feeling or voice comes up. You remember you are not giving up, simply changing strategy. Don’t let a word govern how you see the world or worse yourself!! Be patient and never stop!!

#NeverStopMoving

#NeverStopEvoloving

#DaBoss

Keep Moving

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

 

Are You Admitting Defeat Or Learning To Let Go

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Change is a frightening concept for most of us. I believe this is a natural response. As human beings we are afraid of the unknown, some more than others, but we all feel a bit wary before we move into the unknown.

This is also why we usually try to control everything, because then it is not unknown and we feel prepared, some take it as far as “over-preparing”.

Changing how we think or a certain aspect of our lives, whether it be moving more to become more healthy, or breaking negative thoughts etc. or even changing environments is inevitable. It is part of life. We are going to encounter change.

My point is we need to accept that fact. The way we engage with change will influence how that change affects us. Changing does not always mean your are accepting defeat, but rather that you are learning to let go of certain aspects. This change can be good or bad. It is our job to try and always change for the better.

Keep Moving!

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

 

Evolving ~ Learning, Change, Accepting

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When I talk about evolving usually there is a negative connotation or undertone. I want to apologize for that, because it is not a negative thing at all!

Evolving is about change. Change needs action to achieve. Action needs thought, thought needs consciousness. You can not change what you do not know. This is the beauty of this journey. We are scared of change because sometimes it is the unknown that the change will bring us. Or it is the fact that we need to confront certain traits that we are not willing to face.

To be honest evolving has been amazing. I feel like I am getting to know the real me. The me that I have not understood or suppressed at certain times out of fear of rejection and not being good enough. You know what? I am good enough for me. I see myself in a different light. I can actually face myself and not be mean. This is what #2018Evolve has meant to me and it is not the end of the journey.

Evolving means growing and expanding on yourself in all aspects of our being. I have said that it comes with growing pains, and that it sucks, sometimes. But it has this adventurous, beauty in it. What you learn and experience while evolving is empowering.

I want to encourage you to evolve. To start a relationship with yourself, to understand and identify your weaknesses and accept your humanness!

#NeverStopEvolving

#OneWord2018

#2018Evolve

Keep Moving!

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

Stuck in Limbo

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I feel stuck in limbo. As my focus is on the word evolve and evolving takes time. It does not just happen, there is a process.

My process is slow! Usually I tell my athletes/clients to focus on the process not the results. But now I can see that both can be frustrating. But we can control (and I use the term loosely, because we never have fully control) the process more than the result. In fact the result would most likely be what was done in the process. Because the process is slow, it feels as if nothing is happening, which simply is not true. We can not feel we are growing we just see our shoes don’t fit anymore.

I am realizing that feeling stuck in limbo can actually be a good thing. It makes the journey through the process more “interesting”.  Because even though it “feels” like being stuck it is not reality. Sometimes how we feel influences how we perceive our situation, but it does not change the reality. Feeling stuck has made me slow down more, focus on more small, intricate parts of my daily living. Things I would normally miss. I am learning to enjoy the moments I have while slowly evolving and going through the tough process.

#NeverStopMoving is more than just physically, it encapsulates our whole being. I have said it once and I’ll probably would keep saying it. We are more than the sum of your parts! This mean we should take care of ALL that we are. Easier said than done, but doable!

Keep Moving (in your entirety)!

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

 

 

Unburdening The Soul

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This year’s #OneWord is #2018Evolve… You know the saying be careful what you wish for? Well I think the same can go for be careful what you make your focus. I usually put a lot of thought in my #OneWord. I believe it is important. It is how every decision would be made. It would impact every move.

But…

Evolve encapsulates so much! I mean it means more than just physically. it embodies the whole. As you know I believe we all are more than the some of our parts… I just never thought we had so much outside our parts!!! Evolve also touches base with #NeverStopMoving. We should never stop moving in every human aspect of our lives. Thus we should always evolve. This is what #NeverStopMoving is all about.More than just exercise or movement but why we do it and how much joy it gives us. How it enriches our lives in every aspect.

But…

Doing it or going through the process is hard!!! Because this is my focus this year my #OneWord I feel it… It is like we do not always know we are evolving we just move through the motions. Or if it really is a tough time we just push through to get it over and done with, sometimes we learn, sometimes we don’t. But our focus is usually on the end mark or towards the future when we are “done” with the situation.

I feel it, I feel the growing pains and it is not physically. I feel it deep and it hurts. I have never been so focused on the “why” I do somethings or “how”. By focussing on my evolving I see the “why” and “how” and it is not always good or productive. Things I would never have confronted, changed or understood that could have potentially caused me to make huge mistakes or get hurt further along the line. Now I at least know my triggers/weakness and I can plan for them.

Focussing on evolving I also realised that in today’s society we filter so much. I mean what we put on social media is more of how we wish or would like life to be everyday, but we filter it, we add emoticons to it, we enhance the light etc. It is not the real, raw us… Do we lose ourselves in all our filters? What do you think?

Keep Moving

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

It Is The Small Things In Life

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Long time… Well to be honest it has not been going to well. After unpacking my box and rediscovering my weakness AND identified some new ones. I have realised I am quite good at ignoring the problem. I would literally DO ANYTHING else as to confront…ME. I am terrified to be honest with myself. It is scary to admit to certain weakness and confront myself.

This made me think about how critical I am about myself. If I was one of my clients or even friends, I would not judge them so critical and harshly. Why do I then do it to myself? Am I the only one that does this?

I always say that it is the small things in life that makes the difference. I am now realizing it goes both ways. It is the small things that can hurt us so deeply. It is the small things we can not control that can send us down a spiral. The best we can do is to do our best on the positive small things and try to tip the scale towards the positive side.

Maybe being a bit more lenient towards ourselves and start small, working on the scary truth little by little and become the best you, you can be.

Keep Moving !

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

 

Unpacking The Box

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About three weeks ago my Mentor gave me some homework… And you know we all love homework… Usually I do actually love doing the tasks assigned to me. I love to excel at them and show that I have learned something and value it. But this task I dreaded and felt very uncomfortable. I had to unpack my box.

This means to exam yourself and basically get to know the raw unfiltered YOU. What you hide from the rest of the world and in most cases even yourself. Having to admit something to others is one of the toughest things we as humans do, but admitting something to yourself seems to be near impossible. I said NEAR impossible, not impossible. Usually we look and exam all the outside factors, before we even come close to ourselves, sometimes we never even reach the root cause of our mishaps, or mistakes. Because we do not want to dig deep into yourselves and admit that things went wrong because deep down we have an insecurity and it reaches through to every decision we make and that is why we made the mistake in the first place. Some will never know the “why” behind their action because they are too afraid to unpack the box and dig for the root causes of their behavior.

Sometimes we need to know why we behave the way we do. Because it does affect EVERY aspect of our being, if we admit it or not.

So take time and unpack some boxes this week. Let me know how it goes. Believe me it is not easy, but so empowering and freeing, like all things good!!

Good luck!

Keep Moving!

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis