What Are The Obstacles You Create For Yourself?

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In my other blog I talk about it and I wanted to share the obstacles I create. Follow the link to The Obstacles We Create  .

My biggest obstacle I create and face is me… My insecurities about me… How I am and how I look. I do not look like the average fitness fanatic. But I love movement.

I just believe we move different and have different movement goals and that Media lies to us about what healthy looks like.

I am also physically very short… I look extremely young for my age. This has been always been my obstacle. It is only recently that I turned it into my uniqueness. I am small, but that does not make we weak! I use it now as proof that it is not the package that makes the something great, but what is inside that matters… Dynamite comes in small packages…

This is the obstacle I created and battle to overcome so often… What is our? Leave it in the comment section below.

Keep Moving

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

 

Self-care… Being Selfless

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I want to share something very personal. The reason I am sharing this is because it was brought to my attention that the change that I went through was so profound that people in my life noticed. Some wanted to know what happened. I also hope that I can help someone who was like me. I can help someone reach the piece of themselves where they can see they have worth.

In the famous words of Julie Andrews : “Let’s start at the very beginning, a very good place to start…”

I did not like myself. I did not think I have any value.There was nothing of worth in my being. I was worthless. I was only as good as the works I can do for others, especially if I loved them. I was trying to be this version of me that was just unattainable. I ALWAYS fell short. It was EXHAUSTING!! I was tired ALL THE TIME. I was never TRULY happy or even content. I did not know who and what I am.

I was a good person, I did everything for everyone. I went out of my way for everyone. I rarely said no and I tried to make everything better for everyone… ALL THE TIME!!! Do yu think there was anyone doing this for me? NOOOOOOOO!!! If I asked for something it was usually taken with annoyance. Like I have no needs… How can I want something?

Being tired drains the life out you… I was tired of being tired. This is when I decided to start taking care of myself. The concept was hard for me to grasp. To me it meant I should be conceited, self absorbed, arrogant… O I can go on… But It Is NOT!!!!

Self-care means to take care of yourself so that you can take care of others!!! To have the energy to be a great wife! To laugh more and be a light to everyone around you. It is to exercise and take care of your body, mind and soul to be the best version of YOU to then reach and teach the people around you to do the same and be happy!! It really is that simple. By embracing self-care you automatically become a person people want to be around and the amount of QUALITY you bring to their environment can change their lives!!

Taking care of yourself is the most SELFLESS thing you can do for the people around you!! You have more to give and YOU enjoy it!!! Everyone WINS with SELF-CARE.

I urge you to start taking care of yourself and see how better you make the life around you. If not for you then do it for your kids, your husband, your family and friends!!

Keep Moving !!

Keep Taking Care Of YOU

#NeverStopMoving #NeverStopBeingAware #2019Aware

Jean-Marie’ Roux

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Is This All That I Am… All I can Be?

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Today has been tough. I am angry at myself. I can not understand why I just can’t do what I want to. Why is it that something so simple seems and is physically HARD for me to do? Am I bad?? Am I THAT bad?? No one else seems to struggle like me… Am I that WEAK???

Through my journey of learning I’ve learnt to forgive myself to be compassionate to MYSELF. I am just human… And even if I have high expectations of myself, I also need to know myself. By knowing or better said being aware of my inner being. Who I Am, the WHOLE me. I can change and become the ME I want to.

I am still hard on myself, BUT I WILL NOT BE WEAK… There is more to me and I CAN and WILL be SUCCESSFUL!! Where I fall short like today I will be compassionate but NOT complacent. I will get out of this and forgive myself to carry on and be the ME PI want to be.

It is time to stop being my worst enemy, harshest judge and become my best ally and cheerleader.

Am I the only one who feels like this?

Please let me know

Keep Moving!

#2019Aware

Jean-Marie’ Roux

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www.patreon.com/NeverStopMoving

A Letter Of Forgiveness

I forgive you for…

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I have been given the opportunity to write a letter or letters of forgiveness. Letters that will never be sent and will only ever be seen by me. Why? You ask? What is the Reason or what is the goal?

This was done for me… Forgiveness is never for the person who needs it . It is to free us from the hold that person has on us, fairly or not. This experience and yes it was an experience! Taught me how I still held some resentment towards them. How it affected my life in a bad way! They still had a bit of control over me!

I started slow… Wanted to make it a good letter… Thanking them. telling them I loved them and appreciated what they did for me… Then I got stuck… How can I now say by the way I forgive you for A,B,C….X,Y,Z…. Yeah… That did not fly…

So I started with I forgive you for….

And O My WORD…. Did it ALL pour out!!! I went in detail and for the first time I could articulate my feelings with no disruptions. When I was done I was surprised at what I said, how some things affected me to this day! After writing the letters I could also rationalize the situation. Have better perceptions of why this happened, I could sympathize more and be more compassionate towards them that hurt me. They did not always hurt me out of spite but to be honest out of ignorance.

For the first time I could listen to these people and really HEAR what they are saying, by being more compassionate and not just trying to respond. I had no residual “blocks” or defense mechanisms towards them. I was free from the old holds!

I highly encourage you to try it!! Not for them but for you because you deserve to be free!! In every capacity.

Let me know if you ever did this and what was your experience?

Thank You

Keep Moving

Jean-Marie’ Roux

Being My Own Worst Enemy

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Do you ever think that maybe you are not where you want to be because YOU are in your own way in some shape or form? Why is it easy to look for extrinsic causes than intrinsic? Is it really just me that feels like this?

I am my own enemy! Sometimes I am not even aware that I am. But it amazes me that I am still in my own way. It just reaffirms to me that we need to do introspection as much as possible. We change and our environment has impacts on us even if we are not immediately aware of it. This is not a bad thing… But I do think it is a something we to not place enough importance on.

We can not change what we do not know. Thus we should investigate ourselves regularly and KNOW what WE WANT, WHY WE WANT IT and WHO WE ARE. Because the reasons change and we change and what we want change.

Today, I needed to take responsibility for being in my own way, for being my own worst enemy without really consciously knowing it. I made excuses and I lost my passion. I almost gave my self a fatal wound!

I am the only one who can account for my life and what I have and had done with it. ME, MYSELF and I. I would rather be my own cheerleader, champion, best friend and motivator than keeping myself down without even knowing it or knowing why.

I am changing this today. I need some introspection and changing my enemy to my greatest Ally!!

Keep Introspecting

Keep Evolving

Keep Being Aware

Keep Moving

Jean-Marie’ Roux

Sophrosyne

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This month’s focus is about self awareness.In my own experience I have found that we are mostly look for happiness outside of ourselves. We look for it in other people, activities, hobbies, materials etc. Very rarely we look for it inside, deep inside ourselves!

I want to challenge you this month to look into yourself and start getting to know the true you!

This step was very hard for me, but I can TRULY say I am very happier since I have shifted my focus on myself and where I gain my self worth from. I love that it is a exciting never ending journey, never ending movement to a complete me, how I was made to be. HAPPY!

Let me know your thoughts on Sophrosyne. Being content and happy with oneself.

God Bless!

Keep Moving!!

Jean-Marie’ Roux

The Power Of Speech

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We have all heard :”The pen is mightier than the sword”. EVer wondered why? I mean what is so powerful about the written word? It is a form of speech. I mean speech has developed even more, we can now record actual speech and listen to it years after it has been spoken.

We should now probably say:” Speech (in all its forms) is mightier than the sword.” It still is a powerful statement. Why?

I think it keep us accountable to what we say, how our speech can affect those around us. Because we all KNOW it does affect us. It HAS POWER.

What you say to others says a lot about you. How you speak about yourself and others also says a lot about you.

By changing the way you talk you change the way you think. It changes how others perceive you. Do you see the POWER in just that? Think about it. Really think about it.

Every word you utter is a seed or water. If you plant weeds that is what you get.

The same happens when you talk to yourself. POWERFUL!

Remember the power you have and respect it. You it wisely.

“With great POWER come great responsibility”~ Spiderman

What is your take on this? Does speech have power?

Thank You

Keep Moving

Jean-Marie’ Roux

 

Endurance

 

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I love words. I believe that words have power. I believe that we can change any and every thing with our words. Not immediately, but through our thoughts. The way we communicate our thoughts (through words) plays  a role in our actions. I believe it can be the start of being greater.

This month I will be Coruscate on the word Endurance. Not just physically, but also figuratively. I want to endure more admin and standing up for myself. Endure the last few months of the year.

Who is with me? Ready to endure with me? Let us work on our endurance this month.

Keep Moving

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

Being Me

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This is going to be a very honest and personal post. But hopefully someone will relate and gain something out of reading this.

My focus this year is to evolve #2018Evolve #OneWord #OneWord2018!! All my #’s!! It isn’t really the time to reflect yet, but the year is ending soon… So it happens automatically… This year has taught me so much. I have identified so many aspects of … ME!! I am quite a bag of contradictions and interesting nonsense…

I have also identified my biggest fear… And it baffles me. It was not a normal fear I expected, like being alone, more like ending up alone ( an actual fear of mine); but I was afraid of being me. Doing ME. Almost as if all my insecurities caused me to hide and try to be like others. I hope this makes sense, but it was like if I am me no one would like me or I would be to exposed. Like I am not good enough the way I am. I hid from myself and did not even realize it.

As I have been learning to know ME and doing ME, scary as hell… I like me. I like that I am different, that I have different opinions and look different. I am not afraid to be me anymore. I might not be everybody’s cup of tea, but I am me…That for me is enough!!

I want to encourage you to BE YOU, to DO YOU and most importantly FOR YOU!! Not only will YOU see and live and appreciate the change that occurs, but those close to you would too!!! That for me was the best, because they love me, so why can I not love me as well?

Do You maybe have any thoughts or stories of BEING YOU, DOING YOU, FOR YOU and how it has impacted you?

Thank You

Keep Moving!

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis

 

Don’t Let Failure Control YOU. Be DA BOSS

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Failure is something that I build up to everything and I mean EVERYTHING. Like to things outside my control. I mean I would feel guilty because it rained when we wanted to go out… I mean it is ridiculous. And to be honest to admit it as I am writing makes me feel a bit shameful and silly. I am only human I can not control everything. Truth be told there is very little we as humans can control.

But assigning this unattainable control to myself was exhausting!! Because it is useless energy wasted! Any way I wanted to share that because failure is to stop; to give up and stop trying. We must redefine what failure means to us and how we carry it with us. Failure does not exist if you never stop. You never have to think about it. As soon as that nasty feeling or voice comes up. You remember you are not giving up, simply changing strategy. Don’t let a word govern how you see the world or worse yourself!! Be patient and never stop!!

#NeverStopMoving

#NeverStopEvoloving

#DaBoss

Keep Moving

Jean-Marie’ du Plessis